Hope Is Not A Feeling
To judge your condition by the constantly changing feelings your body produces is the quickest way to dip into depression, anxiety and hopelessness. We are taught to live by what we feel, and to make judgments and decisions based on nurturing or avoiding feelings we’ve felt in the past.
You begin to conquer things like anxiety, depression and a whole mess of other vulnerabilities when you finally refuse to keep living by your feelings. It’s not about what you feel, it’s about the truth of who you are.
If a feeling of depression starts to creep in, tempting me to curl up into a ball on my bed and wish I was dead, here’s how I respond:
“Fuck you, and fuck what I feel! The truth doesn’t change according to feelings, so I’m not following those feelings down that road. I know what’s there and I know who I am and what I’m here to do. I don’t care how strong the feeling is or how long it lasts, I don’t care how loud the thoughts are or how persistent they get, I’m not backing down on who I am, and I will live and act according to hope, regardless of what I feel.”
A lot of people miss hope because they’re looking for a good feeling. Hope is not a feeling, it’s the stubborn choice to believe in good, and good outcomes for your life, regardless of feelings. Hope is not a cute abstract, it is an unwavering, stubborn truth that stands solid in the middle of all the world’s darkness and says “Light is here.” And others will laugh and mock and insult because of what they don’t see, but it insists again, unapologetically, “Light. Is. Here.”
Hint: You are that the light.
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